Should Parents have the final say so on Marriage

do you think a man should ask a womans father for permission to marry her? or at least sit down with her immediate family and ask for their blessing? Men....would you persue a woman KNOWING her family does not approve the relationship? Ladies.....if your father or family did not approve of your fiance...would you still marry him? Ladies and Gentlemen... The best thing to do for a relationship if it gets to the marriage stage, and your momma and daddy dont like your man or your woman is to tell them to shut the %#&@$! up and either show up to the wedding or not. If you have to get your parents approval as a "mandatory" condition than you two dont need to be getting married. I can tell you from a father point of view and from a point of view from other fathers that have went generation after generation dealing with thinking about parents approval. Most Mothers and Fathers wont approve a of a man or woman that want take up for their future or current husband or wife. The reason is because trust and believe they know when two people are in love. The way to know that is you dont allow nobody and I mean nobody to disrespect or beneath the choice in your life. If you are going back and forth thinking about what mommy and daddy are thinking than you are not ready to be married. When it is you two together and if you start letting mommy and daddy control your decisions on who you choose. Expect someone that isnt mommy and daddy to be the reason for your relationship ending. Its called cheating and the man or the woman on the side. the best way to keep third parties out of your relationship is not to invite them in. All you can ask for is for all sides to show each other respect but when someone disrespect your current or future wife or husband. It is your job as a partner, possible future mother or father to be the protector and the support that your husband or wife needs. I have to talk in husband and wife factor because it isnt one or the other that isnt responsible when it comes down to thing strong bond that is suppose to be meant for people to stay together as marriage. %#&@$! mommy and %#&@$! daddy if they dont like who you with. Trust mommy and daddy will start to respect your choice in your husband or wife; the second that you decide to start respecting the role that they have in your life. Mack R aka Merle Rutledge Jr responds as below -